ANALYSIS OF THE MARRIAGE IS SCARY PHENOMENON AMONG GENERATION Z
A PERSPECTIVE OF ISLAMIC LAW SOCIOLOGY
Keywords:
Marriage is Scary, Generation Z, Sociology of Islamic Law, Social Media
Abstract
The phenomenon of "Marriage is Scary" among Generation Z is increasingly prevalent and reflects changing perceptions and attitudes towards marriage. This study aims to analyze how comments on social media, particularly TikTok, reflect Generation Z's perceptions of marriage within the context of this phenomenon. Utilizing a qualitative approach with a descriptive-analytical method, 63 comments were collected from TikTok posts discussing the "Marriage is Scary" trend between November 2024 and January 2025. The analysis identified five main themes: Fear of partners, uncertainty about the future, domestic conflicts, financial concerns, and social media influence. Fear of partners emerged as the most dominant category, influenced by personal experience and exposure to negative narratives regarding domestic violence and marital failure. Economic factors and financial instability also contribute to Generation Z's decision to delay marriage, while social expectations and domestic conflicts further reinforce skepticism towards the institution of marriage. From the perspective of Islamic legal sociology, this phenomenon reflects the challenges in harmonizing Islamic legal norms with evolving social realities. Islamic law emphasizes balance in spousal relationships. However, in practice, it remains influenced by patriarchal cultural expectations that raise concerns, particularly for women. This study highlights the need for more inclusive premarital education, focusing not only on normative aspects, but also on the social and psychological realities of young people. Further research could explore the influence of religious education, state policies, and family roles in shaping perceptions of marriage as well as developing Islamic legal strategies that are more adaptive to social changes.
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Dixit, Anvita, Nandita Bhan, Tarik Benmarhnia, Elizabeth Reed, Susan M. Kiene, Jay Silverman, and Anita Raj. “The Association between Early in Marriage Fertility Pressure from In-Laws’ and Family Planning Behaviors, among Married Adolescent Girls in Bihar and Uttar Pradesh, India.” Reproductive Health 18, no. 1 (December 2021): 60. https://doi.org/10.1186/s12978-021-01116-9.
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Lestari, Melina, Sandhian Lasti Aimma, Shafa Fajriandini Cahyadi, Khaila Alfiory Lestari Legowo Putri, and Mona Maimun Mustofa. “Bagaimana Fenomena ‘Marriage Is Scary’ Dalam Pandangan Perempuan Generasi Z?” JURNAL BIMBINGAN DAN KONSELING AR-RAHMAN 10, no. 2 (December 27, 2024): 278. https://doi.org/10.31602/jbkr.v10i2.17187.
Mafaz, Fina Al, Abbas Arfan, and Fakhruddin Fakhruddin. “Marriage Is Scary Trend in the Perspective of Islamic Law and Positive Law.” Studi Multidispliner: Jurnal Kajian Keislaman 11, no. 2 (2024): 329–44. https://doi.org/10.24952/multidisipliner.v11i2.13555.
Manzilina, Savira and Ahmad Zaidanil Kamil. “PANDANGAN AL-QUR’AN DALAM MENYIKAPI MARRIAGE IS SCARY: Analisis Tafsir Audiovisual Ustaz Rifky Ja’far Pada Kanal YouTube ‘Sayap Dakwah TV.’” At-Tahfidz: Jurnal Ilmu Al-Qur’an Dan Tafsir 6, no. 1 (December 29, 2024): 16–37. https://doi.org/10.53649/at-tahfidz.v6i1.886.
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Mostafapour, Vahid, Hossein Eskandari, Ahmad Borjali, Faramarz Sohrabi, and Mohammad Asgari. “A Narrative Exploration of Transformation of Moral, Social and Cultural Values among Generation Z in the Context of Marriage.” International Journal of Ethics and Society 6, no. 4 (January 2025). https://doi.org/10.22034/ijethics.6.4.40.
Nanda, Ambika Prasad, Diptiman Banerji, and Nihal Singh. “Situational Factors of Compulsive Buying and the Well-Being Outcomes: What We Know and What We Need to Know.” Journal of Macromarketing 43, no. 3 (September 2023): 384–402. https://doi.org/10.1177/02761467231180091.
Onyeakazi, Jude Chukwuma. “Coercion and Fear in Marriage Today (Can. 1103): A Soscio-Cultural Approach.” 2011.
Ren, Junyi. “Analysis of the Psychological Factors of Contemporary Youth’s Fear of Marriage in China.” International Journal of Frontiers in Sociology 4, no. 13 (2022). https://doi.org/10.25236/IJFS.2022.041305.
Riska, Herliana, and Nur Khasanah. “Faktor Yang Memengaruhi Fenomena Menunda Pernikahan Pada Generasi Z.” Indonesian Health Issue 2, no. 1 (February 28, 2023): 48–53. https://doi.org/10.47134/inhis.v2i1.44.
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Tifanny, Rehilia, Putri Azhari, Aisyah Rizkiah Nasution, Nur Sakinah Apriani, and Hapni Laila Siregar. “Mengurai Fenomena ‘Marriage Is Scary’ Di Media Sosial: Perspektif Peran Perempuan Dalam Islam.” JURNAL KELUARGA SEHAT SEJAHTERA 22, no. 2 (December 30, 2024): 66–74. https://doi.org/10.24114/jkss.v22i2.64486.
Tirta, Karnia Dewi, and Sinta Nur Arifin. “Studi Fenomenologi : Marriage Is Scary Pada Generasi Z.” Teraputik: Jurnal Bimbingan Dan Konseling 8, no. 3 (2025). https://doi.org/10.26539/teraputik.833675.
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Zis, Sirajul Fuad, Rahmi Surya Dewi, and Zainal Efendi. “Model Perilaku Komunikasi Generasi Muda Dalam Pemanfaatan Media Digital Memasuki Era 4.0 Dan 5.0 Di Kecamatan Kuranji.” Jurnal Komunikasi Profesional 5, no. 1 (April 4, 2021). https://doi.org/10.25139/jkp.v5i1.3624.
Published
2025-03-17
How to Cite
Krismono, & Dwi Oktaviani. (2025). ANALYSIS OF THE MARRIAGE IS SCARY PHENOMENON AMONG GENERATION Z: A PERSPECTIVE OF ISLAMIC LAW SOCIOLOGY. Sahaja: Journal Sharia and Humanities, 4(1), 422-439. https://doi.org/10.61159/sahaja.v4i1.403
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